Curious dad catches pervert By Amanda Phua The New Paper | Sun, Dec 11, 2011 A father who was curious about why his daughter was up late found out to his horror that the 12-year-old was sending topless pictures of herself to someone she had met online. And then it dawned on him that his girl, who had just finished her PSLE, had been having sexual relations with a 19-year-old ITE student at his home. He contacted the man and then confronted him. Later, the father made a police report against him. Yesterday, the man, Lee Guo Qiang, now 21 and a national serviceman, was sentenced to two years' probation for sexually assaulting the girl, whom he had met on an Internet gaming site in January 2009. We are not naming the girl, who is now in Secondary 2, as she is a minor. Lee had befriended the girl while playing a Facebook game called Viwawa, according to court papers. He told her to trust him as an elder brother and built a close relationship with her. He then asked the girl to send him topless photos of herself and things escalated. When they first met, in August or September 2009, he touched her breasts and vagina, then made her perform oral sex on him. Lee had been exposing the child to sexual activity along the way. He would talk to her over the phone late at night and during one such phone call, Lee told her that he was watching a pornographic movie, and described the scenes to her. He even moaned on the phone. Lee also asked to have sex with the girl, but never fixed a time or date. They met again, about a month later, and Lee followed the girl home. He removed their clothes and inserted his finger into her private parts. Put on condom After making her perform oral sex on him, he put on a condom which he brought along without her knowledge. The girl told him that she had to go and she left. Her father found out about the affair only in November 2009, when he checked on his daughter at 4am. Lee will have to comply with his probation officer's instructions on Internet and computer use, and abide by a curfew. He also cannot contact the victim. Aware, a women's rights organisation, is concerned about the lingering impact of sexual assault on victims. On Nov 25, they launched the Sexual Assault Befrienders Service (SABS), a support service for survivors of sexual assault. In her speech then, executive director of Aware, MsCorinna Lim, said: "Even though the victim did not consent to the sexual penetration, she may have consented to meeting the accused at a late hour alone, to drinking and often to a certain degree of intimacy with the perpetrator, short of sexual intercourse. "Although she is clear that she did not consent to sex, she feels partly responsible for the situation." She added that out of 34 rape calls made to the Aware helpline where they were told of the relationship between the culprit and the victim, only one call was by a woman who was raped by a stranger. Ms Lim told The New Paper that the perpetrators may have viewed their relationship with the victim as an opportunity. "There already is trust, and perhaps a certain level of intimacy. The girl is in a vulnerable position." Mr Daniel Koh, a psychologist from Insights Mind Centre, said that the relationship is exploited because the women are not as guarded as they would be with a stranger. He added: "As family members or friends, they have more access to your environment, your house. They are able to get closer to you, monitor your habits. "Especially if the victims have known them for a long time, they trust that such an individual would not do such a thing." HELPLINES Aware: 1800 774 5935 (from 3pm to 9.30pm on weekdays) Sexual Assault Befrienders Service, Aware: 6779 0282 (from 10am to 9.30pm on weekdays) Centre for Promoting Alternatives to Violence (Pave): 6555 0390 Comcare Helpline: 1800 222 0000 Samaritans of Singapore: 1800 221 4444